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<div class="moz-cite-prefix">On 10/18/2014 07:14 AM, Reindl Harald
wrote:<br>
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Am 18.10.2014 um 09:10 schrieb Miroslav Suchy:
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<blockquote type="cite">On 10/17/2014 08:31 PM, Matthew Miller
wrote:
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<blockquote type="cite">You can say something like "I'm not sure
I understand the point you are
<br>
making. Particularly, I don't see how __________ follows. Can
you explain
<br>
that in more depth?"
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<br>
And conversely, if you feel like your position isn't being
listened
to, try
<br>
"I guess I'm not making myself very clear. Let me try to
restate.... Does
<br>
this make more sense?"
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Ha Ha. I heard exactly that from my English teacher several
weeks ago.
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For myself, this is cultural difference too. I would never use
such
<br>
wording in my native language. (Disclaimer: I'm not targeting
the
<br>
original thread, but disagreement in general)
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+1
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nobody i know in real life talks that way, really nobody, never
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Harald,<br>
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I totally disagree---most people I know, including myself, often
talk like that. Maybe <br>
that's because I am married :).<br>
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Another phrase that I found to be very effective at avoiding
emotions in arguments is <br>
'There's another way of looking at this'.<br>
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Remember how in the old times people used to be exquisitely polite
to each other?<br>
It occurred to me that the primary reason for those courtly manners
was that everyone <br>
had an enormous sword at their side. I think it's not a bad idea to
treat other people<br>
with respect equal to what you'll grant them if they were armed.<br>
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